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Lately I feel as though discipline has gotten away from me. I have been tired a lot, and exhaustion doesn’t lend itself to consistency. That, and my daughter is at the age where the simple methods I used when she was young aren’t effective anymore.

Enter the ticket system. I just read about this, and I can’t wait to try it.

I’m going to briefly outline the method, but I highly recommend that you go click on that link and read the comments, as well as the link to the source of the idea in one of the comments.

Basically, you make 3 (or more) tickets and stick them to the fridge. Then you highlight certain infractions that will result in losing a ticket. Then at each infraction, tue child must surrender a ticket. When all are gone, he gets to sit on his bed the rest of the day and go to bed early. There could he a practice day before you start, where you warn them each time they disobey, saying, “That would be a ticket.”

So I have written down the 3 most important areas for each child that I want to focus on. Here they are:

Gislaine:

  • Tattling
  • Dissolving into tears when disappointed
  • Not obeying promptly

Manny:

  • Hurting the baby
  • Not obeying promptly
  • Throwing a tantrum when things go wrong

I suppose there could be more, but those are the top 3 for me right now. Obviously, not obeying promptly covers a multitude of transgressions.

I’m not sure if I will implement this the same for Manny as I will for his sister. He is pretty young, and I may have him sit in a chair an arm’s length from wherever I am. I will also confiscate all toys if they are in their rooms. I may also try setting the timer for 2 hours initially and starting the tickets over when it goes off, but I’ll wait and see how it goes.

I’ll do my best to keep you all posted!

This post is linked to the Works for Me Wednesday and the Modest Monday blog carnival.


3 Responses

  1. #1
    Susan Motsinger 

    Love, Love, Love this!!! How wonderful to see this page, and to know the scope of reach is overwhelming. I first thank you for the creation of it, then for you to share it …and the span of it’s possibile reach….WOW!!! I praise God for all His work being done. I do not have small children in my home or family reach but God has blessed me to become a Sunday School teacher this past year, and it has been amazing!!! It is so refreshing to see a page for mothers, or just others, to get the scriptural knowledge for taining up a child in the way he/she should go, for it is then that he/she will not depart from it. You are doing a wonderful thing….For if it helps one child it is worth it!!!please keep up the wonderful job, and may God Richly Bless you for your time WELL spent!

  2. #2
    Susan 

    I came across your blog while searching for the original poster of the image you used on your 2012 daylight savings post. Seeing that I stumbled across yet another mommy blog, and because I get endless amusement from such blogs, I decided to have a look around.

    After reading your post on this ticketing system, I couldn’t help but leave a reply. Do you really think punitive discipline is really the best way to encourage your children to behave? Does this system really mean that your child could potentially spend the entire day sitting on her bed and then go to bed early over something as basic as tattling? How awful…and archaic.

    Have you tried actually talking to your children? Perhaps explaining when it’s okay to tattle and why most tattling is inappropriate would help. Perhaps you should just ignore the tattling and reward the situations where she comes up with her own solutions instead of resorting to tattling.

    And as far as “dissolving into tears” goes, you are totally ignoring her basic emotions when you send her to her room for expressing emotion. Instead of punitive punishment, why not have a gentle conversation about how she is feeling and why she is feeling that way. After you talk to her about how she is feeling, then offer some different tools for dealing with her current situation. For example, you could say, “I can see you are very disappointing right now. Crying won’t really help us figure out a solution. Why don’t you try talking to me instead?” Validating her feelings and then helping her to select new tools for dealing with these feelings is a far better way to get this behavior to stop.

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